Hello my dears! Over the past few months I have had certain thoughts and ideas running around in my head that I think I am finally ready to share with you all. The focus of my thoughts has been slowing down in life. Taking the time to learn how to do things well, to the best of my ability, and enjoy each moment that God gives me.
Too often I find myself not doing something, or dreading the work, because I don’t know how to do it well, and don’t want to spend the time learning how to do it well. Take dicing an onion as an example. It takes me quite a bit of time to dice an onion to my satisfaction, and I always hate doing it because I can’t do it very fast… yet. But I have realized that if I never slow down and actually take the time to dice those onions that are involved in the current dish I am making, I will never get to the point where I can dice them faster for future culinary ventures.
I have always been a procrastinator, pushing things that I don’t like to do out as far as I possibly can. But I can’t do that anymore with the things that I desire to be able to eventually do well at. Mastering any art takes patience and time. Buttonholes are a good sartorial example. It takes around 1,000 buttonholes to master the art. If that doesn’t involve patience and time, and the willingness to “fail”, I don’t know what does.
That is another thing I have been contemplating: the idea of failure. I don’t believe failure is a bad thing. Failure causes us to realize one of two things, depending at what point you face it: 1. We can either persevere and get beyond the point of failure if this is a passion and desire that we have, and it is worth the cost of more failure in the future in order to eventually succeed; 2. We can realize after multiple tries and failures that this isn’t the path the Lord wants us on at this time. I don’t believe that failing to finely dice an onion or make a decent looking buttonhole are causes to cease trying, but when something that you are failing at is taking up so much time and energy that it results in lack of attention to the things that you actually succeed at, and the things in life that you are called to do regardless of failure (speaking specifically to family relationships, friendships, loving the Lord), I think it is time to give it up. I have had to do this recently with a project. But, you know something? I actually was able to rejoice in my failure. I had succeeded at realizing that this was something the Lord didn’t mean for me to do, and that it was alright for me to give it up and move on to the things that He had given me an obvious passion and calling for.
To conclude, take the time to learn how to do things well. If we don’t pause in our busy lives to learn to do the things we wish to do well now, we will never be able to do them well in the future. And failure is good. By failure we learn how “not to do something” to paraphrase Edison. So, go out! Take the time to learn, and embrace failure as part of the learning experience. Above all, do everything, failure included, to the glory of God.
What do you think of failure?
Do you typically have the patience to learn to do something well?
Are you a procrastinator like me?
Brigid, the Middle Sister and Singer