Hello, dears. After receiving several comments and questions about this, we decided to devote just one post to our Covenant Rings; dispelling all further inquiry and mystery on the subject.
How it all began:
When our family, as a whole, was much younger, and we were attending one of the best Reformed Presbyterian Churches in the North West, the groundwork of our family’s beliefs and understanding of the truths of God’s infallible Word were beginning to grow and flourish. As little babies, each of us girls in turn was baptized in the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Ghost; and through this baptism, we entered into a covenantal relationship with the Lord. It was because of our parents’ faith that allowed us, as small babies, to be accepted into the Covenant, thus being recognized as Christians from the very beginning of our lives. Precluding the baptisms, our parents took vows to raise us girls in the Faith, promising to teach us everything we might need to know in order that we might be saved. So in essence it was through our Dad’s faith (as he is the head of our family) that we received the blessings of the Covenant.
Surrounding our family were many like minded families who believed in this covenantal headship of Christ–i.e. Christ over the Church, Christ over the heads of households, and thus Christ over each member of each family through the father (who represents Christ to his family). Our Dad is the man to whom we look to for nearly all of our questions, struggles and aid in our walk with the Lord; such was the case for each family in our Church. To be clear, we believe the Lord uses our Dad as the sole protector, provider, and keeper of our hearts, and until we marry, he is our earthly head.
The way that many of the fathers in our Church signified to their daughters their covenantal headship over them was through the giving of a ring when they entered their teen years. Likewise, the young men were given tools of dominion, (hand gun, knife, compass, electronic devices, etc.) representing their father’s headship over them and also eluding to the future duties of headship the young men would eventually perform over their own families.
The Significance of our Rings:
On each of our fourteenth Birthdays, Dad gave us a little white box that held our Covenant Ring. The rings are molded with a cluster of three linked hearts and a Cross lying over them. The three hearts represent the three Covenant heads in our lives: Christ, our Dad, and Lord willing, our future husband. And the Cross of course represents that we are sinful, in need of the blood of Christ to wash us clean from our guilty sins, making us new creations in Him through His saving work.
Up until our wedding days, the girls and I will still be wearing our Covenant rings. We plan to add into the usual wedding ceremony an extra ceremony for the taking off of these rings and the putting on of the wedding band. For me personally, I would like to have Dad take off my Covenant ring, and hand it over to my husband who will then put it on a chain to be worn around my neck. This would signify that Dad’s headship has been replaced by that of my husband’s. This ceremony will then be sealed by our vows and exchanging of wedding rings.
You may be wondering if I began longing for my own wedding day as I wrote up this post. The answer is both yes and no. Yes, because I am excited to see who God will allow to be my next head, and no, because I am so very content with where I am at in life at present. It’s just like that quote that has been running around all over Pinterest which goes something like this:
“Run as fast as you can towards Christ, and if someone catches up, introduce yourself.”
How I love that quote! It has sunk in deep for me, because I know that that is exactly how things are going to play out.
Girls, I know it can be tough to wait, but honestly, it will only ever be tough if you let your mind dwell on the fact that you’re still waiting. Don’t think about your age, or how many more years it will be before Mr. Right comes along. I know you have heard and read and rehearsed this yourself many times over, but read it one more time: God knows best. So embrace to the fullest extent all that the Lord has placed in your hands to look after, and don’t look forward too far. We as females have a tendency to let our minds wander into the vast cavern of “what if” and I think if we learned to think “right now” and “back then” more often, we will get more things done for the advancement of Christ’s Kingdom, and remember all the wonderful things that the Lord allowed us to experience! Live the good life that God has given to you, now.
What kind of ring do you have, and what does it signify?
Not trying to open a can of worms, but, what do you think of our family’s beliefs about headship?
Do you get stuck in the “what if” mode too much like I used to?
Run as fast as you can toward Christ!
Jessica, the eldest sister & singer