Hello my dears!
It was so great to see all of your ecstatic comments on the A Pocket of Whimsy Giveaway post! That is really going to be so much fun to see who gets to win! We are in a pretty awesome season here on the BFS blog right now, and I’ll tell you why–we have a whole sidebar full of advertisers (Please check them all out!), next week we will be heading down to Linden Tennessee for the big Remembering WWII event (we hope to meet some of you there!), and we just feel really, really good about where the Lord has placed us at this point. All in all, these are blessings, and gracious gifts from the Lord. (Luke 11:9)
A few years ago, while shopping at our local high-quality cotton fabric store, I picked out this scrumptious floral print to be done up in a 1950’s shirtwaist dress. A pretty blah story, but I have to say the shirtwaist dress is by far one of our most appreciated, truly vintage, patterns! In fact, we all love this pattern of dress so much, that my sister did a post on it a while back. There are some dresses that we have tried that just don’t fit the bill, and others, well, the instructions weren’t up to par. So if you are ever vintage pattern shopping, do look for this shirtwaist pattern!
Okay, dress talk aside, I want to talk about something a little deeper. Something personal. A struggle I have, and I want to know if there are other girls who struggle with the same issue. The subject? Conversations at Church, or around your fellow homeschooled girl friends.
A long time ago in my childhood, this issue of good conversation didn’t really matter to me so much. If there was nothing good to share amongst my gaggle of friends, no problem! We would just go and play a game to use up our abounding energy. But now… well, as a young woman, you don’t just go roughhouse after Church right? Certainly not! You are expected to act like a grown up and stand around having conversations with your peers. You know what I am referring to–the large empty circle of air edged with a circumference of well dressed young ladies who talk about anything from the latest movies all the way to the daily drudge of school or work. In my opinion, this is just not satisfying. And I know that deep down, these girls have a lot more in them than what I see on a weekly basis. To be honest, I am really not sure what I want out of a circle of girl friends, be they from Church or elsewhere, but it really does get boring when there is nobody who wants to talk about things like: how the Lord has been working in your life; what does one think about the turn of events in the world right now; discussing how one might go about interpreting a certain passage in scripture, etc. And if not that, then why not talk about personal struggles and how to get over them, learning each other’s strengths and weaknesses, and on the whole, building good relationships. That is what I want most, to build good relationships that will last through the years, no matter how hard life gets, and knowing that you can rely on these young women for support.
In hindsight, I could have changed a lot of conversations in the past by asking such questions, but what do you do if you feel like the people you are talking to don’t want to go so deep? Are you supposed to keep waiting and hoping that the next time you meet it will happen that they do? And here is another question: should I even expect this from my peers? Or should I look elsewhere for these kind of conversations?
What drives me nuts is that there are so many young ladies I have met outside of our Church/homeschool circles who are not always as likeminded, or else I haven’t known for very long, and yet I find myself conversing with them on such matters as loosely presented above. And there wasn’t anything unique in the way I went about getting to know these girls better. So, what is it that makes girls want to share or not share? What is it that I am missing? Is there a key element that I am blind to?
One thing that has always struck me as a sure fire way to get to know a person better is to work on a project together. (This is actually something that I hope to do when I am being courted by a young man so that I can really get to know who he is by the way he goes about doing something with a “teammate”.) But unfortunately, the only people I have ever had such experiences with have not been a part of our Church/homeschool circles, and they weren’t even Christians. One other problem with this way of getting to know someone well is that our family is always so busy with singing gigs that it would be a stretch to try and even host a small get-together with some friends on a normal basis besides Church or homeschool functions.